There are a handful of things that make men feel less than strong, complete and fulfilled. But, by far, there is only one that steals, destroys and kills manhood like feeling powerless. Feeling powerless weakens our ability to stand tall and strong, fearless and confident, able to carry sword and shield for life’s battles, both present, and future.
No man alive willfully wants to acknowledge a weakness in his armor. For that matter, any weakness. Because that is not who we are and that is not what we do, for we are strong and mighty. We were designed for such great feats, to lead, explore, establish, form bonds and conquer enemies. That’s who we are, and that’s what we do.
Yet, feeling powerless cause reactions that are not part of our man-DNA. The opposite poles of being a powerful man are over and under compensation. Here in lies the problem, many of us vacillate between the two opposite poles of over and under compensation, rather than making our center of gravity that of a powerful man.
Overcompensation. When we feel threatened by power loss, we go into defensive mode. This is different than digging in for battle or for establishing a stronghold for an attack. Its feeling defensive due to the feeling of loss of power. Its the feeling of being disrespected or disregarded both those we lead positionally and in reality. Then we react accordingly.
- MYTH #1: We are powerful if everyone does what we say, when we say it, how we order it.
- TRUTH: I am a changer of destinies and courses of all the lives of others with my words and deeds. This is the real power in it’s purest form.
- MYTH #2: I’m only as powerful as I feel when I’m winning and things are going my way.
- TRUTH: I am a mighty man regardless of my feelings, the battle I presently face or am in, regardless.
- MYTH #3: Defensive mode is protecting my identity as a man and his legacy, therefore, I must attack adversaries to preserve and sustain myself and my identity.
- TRUTH: I am the sole possessor of manhood and my legacy. In every situation, I understand that bunkers are for hiding and self-protection, having no place in my life, regardless. I put others before myself, in humility seeking their safest and best-desired future doing my part to make it happen.
Undercompensation. When we feel threatened, we bunker in and hide allowing our feelings and insecurities to dictate direction. We enable nobody access except they agree with our observations and perspectives. We alienate those closest to us, especially if I perceive them as threats or if they are the offenders of my identity.
- MYTH #1: I’m the ultimate source of understanding, reason, and position.
- TRUTH: I am powerful because my dependence is on my call to manhood and not my office.
- MYTH #2: I must protect myself because no others will, even those closest to me because they have forsaken me and my position through disagreement, disobedience, and disrespect.
- TRUTH: I am not in need of protection from those closest to me because I love them and will give myself for them, even when I am misunderstood by them.
- MYTH #3: All those I lead will accept me because I am in charge. Therefore, I must be respected and regarded by others over themselves.
- TRUTH: I am a mighty man because I love, lead and honor others because my call as a man of power outweighs being understood or misunderstood by others. Power serves in both understanding and misunderstanding by wisdom, knowledge, kindness, and humility.
Be strong and corageous.
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