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What’s First Place?

A couple of years ago, I had the opportunity to walk through a discipleship weekend. Will Mancini designs it. One of the processes of the weekend directs a review of your past. WillMancini.com

Will shows a process of “Three Life Drifts”. Picture a triangle. I am starting with the left base angle, ambition, approval, appetite.

Ambition drives me to accomplish. What I don’t accomplish I feel guilt over. Approval drives me to be something that I am not nor designed to be. What I don’t accomplish I feel shame over. Appetite drives me to have. What I don’t have causes me fear.

1 John 2:16  For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father,
but are from this world.

Men are driven to perform for the win. This drive determines daily routines, belief systems, values, treatment of people, even and most importantly our identity. It’s the “man thing to do” says the culture. Yet, in the heart of every FatherSeeker resides a paradox: doing verses being a man.

“Many fathers perform for identity instead of living from their identity.”


What does first place mean? Determination time now. Here’s the reason why we understand that first place captures and directs our hearts for better or worse. Fatherless guys are traditionally not affirmed by their fathers. Because of a boy’s intricately woven soul-design, specific demands require a father’s attention, approval, and affirmation. When this element of a boys heart isn’t attended to correctly, voids appear growing deeper and broader as he grows into a man. Then, tranferance to our kids, by intent ofr default.

Try understanding it this way. Weaknesses never conquered that we fall into over and over again generally originated in boyhood. Here’s the dilemma, many of us never figure this out until later in life and many of the ditches we pop in and out of detract, detour and even derail us for much of our lives. Is it dad’s fault? Can we blame him? No. He had a responsibility he failed in for whatever reason. Forgive and honor him with the help of your Father in Heaven.

Now we know, and it’s our responsibility to make the necessary corrections in our lives that are most necessary. The changes will help us understand God’s design for our lives.

Start the recalibration of your life with these simple questions.

  1. What’s first place-important to you?
  2. What is your identity found in accomplishment, approval, or appetite?

Fathers, our identity is found in the Lord Jesus Christ. We take on His identity, and in so doing, we are not subject to the pitfalls of the “Three Life Drifts.”  Rebuild the balance of your life leaning into your complete identity being found in the person of Jesus Christ.

#stopdrifting #identityinjesus

#Purpose #Identity #Sonship

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